Attending an old people’s party is not usually my style, but it actually changed my perspective regarding love and relationships. I found myself a wallflower until an old retired man asked me to dance.
I’m not too big on dancing, but he told me I’ll do just fine if I follow him. During this time, we had a small conversation regarding relationships.
“Are you married?”
“Oh no, sir. I am attending on behalf of my grandmother.” Grandmum was sick and I was a proxy for my grandfather.
“I see. In a relationship?”
“Not really, just came from a breakup.”
This probably explains the earlier posts in this blog I have for relationships, aside from other ad-related posts you could see in this blog.
Then he told me the best thing I’ve heard my entire life.
“Well you know child, maybe you’re just thinking of all the fights you’ve been with your partner. But have you counted the times you’ve made up with him?”
I actually danced and stared for long. My boyfriend and I had frequently fought with each other, but we always came back to each other, asking for forgiveness, forgiving and improving. When the hurt starts to rise, we back away from each other, and then learn to forgive again. It’s a tiring cycle.
But this man pointed out that it is the number of times we resolved our problems that make up our relationship.
He smiled at me, I thanked him for the dance, and thanked him for giving me a good perspective on dealing with my present situation too.